why this woman is on a self-improvement spree,when time is running out for her?
My 30 year old, very attractive, and professional sister went through divorce and separation 3 years ago.
Please note that we are an indian family living in UK.
Now, we all were hoping that at some point she will try to re-settle.
However, she has got very fiddily. She keeps on improving her life like excercise, laser surgery for her eyes, and now planning on having breast augmentation to increase her bust size from A cup to C. All this is fine but her standards in men is really high. She wants someone attractive, confident and professional.
We feel that because she is getting so much better, she will never be able to find a right match for herself.
Afterall, she is not a celebrity , so she doesn’t need to be perfect and should live like a middle class woman.
I am worried about my sister. If she never found anyone, she will be all alone which is too sad.
what do you think?
OMG -she’s 30 with her whole life in front of her
What she does with her life is he business, and by all accounts she is improving things for the better, and feeling better in herself
I’m sure her divorce would have left her feeling very low in self esteem,so I’d be congratulating her on getting on with her life and making improvements that will increase her self confidence and self esteem.
She’s got high standards and there is nothing wrong with that
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Let her live her own life and be happy.
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Comment by Shαnnδn — October 23, 2009 @ 12:11 pm
It’s nice that your sister has you to care so much about her, but honestly what she does with her life is not your decision! I think you should support her even if that means she is single for a long time. Maybe she likes it that way…
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Comment by Andie — October 23, 2009 @ 12:11 pm
The problem is: The men she will attract will not love her for her mind. They won’t be the family man type.
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Comment by James — October 23, 2009 @ 12:11 pm
And this has what to do with Marriage and Divorce??
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Comment by Cliff R — October 23, 2009 @ 12:13 pm
I laughed my arse off! Really, when I clicked on this, I thought, omg, your sister is 60+!! You act as if she is about to fall into the coffin or something. Mind your own beeswax, let her self improve until the cows come home. It’s her body, her bizness. Get a life of your own.
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Comment by pianobee — October 23, 2009 @ 12:14 pm
yes, time has ran out, she is also very insecure, if she does trick a man into being with her, 2nd marriages have a divorce rate of 60%, so she is detined just to be some old washed up middle aged hag with fake titties
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Comment by Arber — October 23, 2009 @ 12:17 pm
Sometimes when we go through a tough divorce it makes us go back to see what was wrong with us why it happened and could we have done more to keep our loved one closer. She may be trying to prepare for the next one both for herself and for him thinking the ideal world will prevail. Problem is there is not one of us here on earth perfect nor is there one of us that can meet all that someone establishes for a standard. The real thing she should be working on is relationship and how to start, build, grow and maintain a good healthy relationship with anybody. The rest of is will fall into place. I know you can have the most beautiful person of the opposite sex and it will fail if the relationship is not built on solid principals. I know this doesn’t specifically answer your question but I hope it helps you think about how to approach her and help guide her along a better path than physical attributes. Good luck
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Comment by RipCity — October 23, 2009 @ 12:18 pm
All the decisions she has made to improve her looks are just that - HER decisions. Regardless of what anybody else thinks, if she feels more comfortable doing these things - and clearly she has the money to do so - then all you can do is accept her choices. She is probably desperately trying to find herself and this is how she thinks that’s possible.
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Comment by Mystery Writer — October 23, 2009 @ 12:18 pm
You should be happy for your sister after all she went through a divorce now she’s loving herself. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Would you rather her be depressed and stop caring about her appearance or do you want her to be happy. It takes a lot for someone who just gotten a divorce to over come this way. It’s a blessing good for her.
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Comment by kim — October 23, 2009 @ 12:33 pm
Some people PREFER to remain single their whole lives. Stop projecting what YOU want onto her, it’s HER life. She’s doing what she wants to do to be happy, so let her be! In fact you should be HAPPY for her… many people never in their lives do a THING about self-improvement!!! And should she WANT to find someone and live happily every after, she still has plenty of time!! Only the very young and the ignorant think that a 30 year old is "running out of time." Do you have any idea how many people don’t find the person they want to settle down with until up into their 50’s? This isn’t the stone age, when you were ancient if you reached 40. People are living much longer and healthier lives these days, so BUTT OUT and let her be.
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I hope all these answers have made you think, and maybe you can share them with the rest of your family. You guys should be HAPPY FOR HER, and SUPPORTIVE as a FAMILY. Seriously…. think about it for a while.
Comment by Dragonfly Girl — October 23, 2009 @ 12:35 pm
I think it’s very sad that this independent, successful woman has as brother whose judging her this harshly.
Stop worrying about her. She’ll be fine.
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Comment by Debi — October 23, 2009 @ 12:40 pm
she is doing what makes her happy. maybe she isnt interested in finding another man right away. let her be - she is a grown woman & knows what to do to live her life the way she wants to.
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Comment by bayou_babe1111 — October 23, 2009 @ 12:55 pm
OMG -she’s 30 with her whole life in front of her
What she does with her life is he business, and by all accounts she is improving things for the better, and feeling better in herself
I’m sure her divorce would have left her feeling very low in self esteem,so I’d be congratulating her on getting on with her life and making improvements that will increase her self confidence and self esteem.
She’s got high standards and there is nothing wrong with that
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Comment by Jan409 — October 23, 2009 @ 1:00 pm